What Living in a Van Taught Me About My Relationship

This month my boyfriend and I flew across the country to San Francisco, rented a camper van and set out to explore the area for 10 days from Santa Cruz, Monterrey, Big Sur and Yosemite National Park. By camper van I don’t mean a camper. I mean a van… that you live in. It’s funny how friends of mine had such different reactions to the idea. Some were like “OMG I could never!”, the concept of the van or even camping for that long was incomprehensible. Other friends reacted completely opposite and thought it was such a fun, economical and cool idea. I’m glad I happen to be in the group whose up for an adventure. I grew up taking camping trips across the country with my family in our pop up camper, so when Stephen threw the idea out there I was in.

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Now let’s get into the relationship part. Traveling is a great way to learn a lot about the person you’re dating- you’re both in an unfamiliar place and at some point are bound to be faced with unexpected situations. This brings out the good, the bad and all the in between sides of your partner, and I find it actually to be very helpful in seeing if the relationship is a strong one. What better way to test your relationship than living in a van, just the two of you, for 10 days. Not that I went into this testing ours! We had traveled many times before this in the US and out of the country. But the van aspect definitely added an extra quirky twist to this trip, and along the way some observations and thoughts crossed my mind.

#HIGHFIVE FOR PROBLEM SOLVING

The first night of our trip we were rearranging the inside of the van to make our bed after dark. The camper van is set up so the main seat bench and table reconfigure to make a surprisingly comfortable queen size bed. We had left Atlanta at 5:30am to catch our flight so needless to say after a long day of traveling we were exhausted. During the bed making process we were both outside and shut the doors… and were locked out. Somehow we locked the van with the keys… and our phones… inside.

We both just looked at each other for a second- damnit. We were in the woods with no keys, no phones and no way to get to any of our things. Immediately we both went into problem solving mode. I walked over to the campers next to us who were hanging out at their site, asked to borrow one of their phones, and began looking up the roadside assistance number I remember the camper van rental company mentioning. Stephen right away asked one of them for a tent stake to try to basically break into the van. Less than 5 minutes later I hear “we’re in!”. Somehow they managed to get into the van with the tent stake and save the night.

What was important to me about this was neither of us blamed the other, was mad or upset… by nature we both immediately thought of the best ways to fix the problem, stress-free. #Highfive for problem solving.

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WE DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY, AND THAT’S OKAY

Everyone has their own way of going about their day and everyday tasks. The first day we stopped at the grocery store to stock up before going to our first campsite. After loading up the cart we got to the van to unload the bags. Seems like a completely normal thing, what could go wrong right? Well… we had an issue. Stephen wanted to completely unload and organize all the groceries where they belonged in the van, right there in the parking lot. His very efficient stance on the situation was “why do things twice, let’s put it all where it goes the first time”.  My view was “why spend any more time in the grocery store parking lot than we have to? Let’s throw the bags in, get to the campsite and take our time organizing there”. There was a small, *calm* disagreement that afternoon in the parking lot of the SaveWay in Aptos, California.

Was one of us right? No… we simply just go about certain things differently. It doesn’t make sense trying to argue who is right and who is wrong when in the end it doesn’t even matter. We compromised, put away the cold things in the fridge, and organized the rest later at the campsite.

PATIENCE NEVER FAILS

If you’re spending 10 days straight together there are times you are bound to annoy the other person. We had the most amazing time and are extremely compatible, but our trip wasn’t without its moments on both sides. I remember Stephen trying to park the van on this very particular angle I wanted so it would be the most ideal setup with one of our campsites. Since the backside of the van opens up with the whole cooking area its important it’s placed so it flows with the site layout (at least to me that stuff is important!). I know I can be very picky, so there was a lot of moving the van this way, then that way, and then back this way. I could tell I was getting on his nerves, but he really remained patient with me and we got it set up perfect. I was happy with our space, and he was happy it was over so he could build a fire and relax with a beer.

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Another time he wanted to stop and take pictures at this well known surf spot in Santa Cruz called Steamer Lane. That day is was extra chilly and windy, and I didn’t have a warm jacket on. I wasn’t in the mood to walk up and down cliff’s edge taking pictures of waves and surfers, and more waves and surfers… and waiting for the next set of waves hoping a surfer would catch an epic one. But I sucked it up, put on a happy face and paced along the water’s edge with him as he snapped away. He was excited about it, it made him happy, so I remained patient until he was ready to go.

Being patient with the other person is extremely important to a happy relationship. You won’t always want to do the same things, and you will get frustrated with each other at times. Don’t let those emotions boil over and ruin the moment.

No relationship is flawless. There will always be things you don’t agree and everything won’t always be picture perfect- even if you do end up with some pretty perfect pictures. I would do our whole 10 days in a van all over again anytime, Stephen jokes with me that it was just a warm up for a MUCH longer trip in the future. We will see if that ever comes to fruition, but I am confident we will be able to tackle whatever comes our way.

Have you ever experienced similar situations while traveling with your partner? Share your stories in the comments below!

 

 

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Weekly 5 Favorites

#1- Paradise Memories

The dreary weather left me exhausted as this week began. It’s amazing how much weather can affect your entire day and I was ready for a break from the cloudy skies and rain. I took a mental escape back to my time in Laguna Beach last year… the beautiful rocky coast and bright blue waters. Although my current physical location might not be ideal, I am so grateful to have those memories to look back on and to be excited for what the future may bring.
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#2-This Striped Shirt

With the cold weather comes a whole different wardrobe… out with the tank tops and in with the comfy long sleeve shirts! I snatched this one up at Target the other day, only 2 for $20! Style and affordability is always a good combination 😉

CLICK HERE to shop the look

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#3-Seeing the Magic Happen at Work

We are just now launching our newest line of travel accessories at PurseN and I am SO excited about how well it’s been received. In addition to the more luxurious fabrics and finishes of the collection, we’ve introduced the latest in Jewelry Cases the Primas! This amazing travel jewelry case has revolutionary pouches to keep your necklaces in place and keep them tangle-free, it’s the best. This week we did a video shoot showcasing the Prima Jewelry Cases and I was so proud of all of our hard work. We have been developing this design for most of 2015, and seeing it all come together makes me grateful to work where I am an integral part of the journey.

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#4-Close Friendships

Nothing brings together the best of friends like a birthday dinner. I am so thankful to have these ladies in my life to be the sisters I never had. We have been through so many journeys together, lived in multiple places, helped each other through relationships, breakups and new beginnings. Remember to never take these people in your life for granted.

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#5-Margs & Guac

What better way to end the week than with the best margarita and guacamole in town! I am totally obsessed with Bartaco– the food, the atmosphere, the drinks… all of it is my thing.  I can never pass up an opportunity to introduce a friend to this spot for the first time.

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Bare Feet & Rosé in Venice

First of all… thats not Venice, Italy. It’s Venice Beach, CA. I wish though!

Earlier this month I packed up my bags and headed to SoCal for a long weekend away. I have this habit of periodically browsing plane ticket prices and came across a deal I just could resist. $178 for roundtrip/nonstop ATL to LAX, how could I NOT jump on that?! I am fortunate enough to have some amazing friends to see out on the west coast, so I figured why not take myself away to my favorite part of the country. I packed up my very organized bag (benefits of working for a organizational travel accessories brand!) and headed out to those beautiful blue ocean waves.

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I started my trip out by heading to Venice Beach for the afternoon. After walking the pier I spent the rest of my time  enjoying the views, grabbing a little rosé love, and exploring the scenery. A perfect way to begin the trip!

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Hello Again Santa Barbara!

Shortly after returned home from California I couldn’t get beautiful Santa Barbara off my mind. I was in love with everything about the city and being there only 24 hours was obviously not nearly enough.  A few weeks later on a whim I booked a trip to return for a long weekend, another spontaneous solo trip for this girl. I was all set to arrive in SB late Thursday night and enjoy my own little paradise.

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I reserved this adorable little space on airbnb.com in the home of an older total hippie lady from the looks of her profile and description. It was located just into the foothills of Santa Barbara, a very quick drive or bus ride into downtown and the ocean. I definitely should have read the directions to the home before arriving around 10pm that night, because it turned into quite an interesting adventure. After following my GPS past the neighborhood streetlights onto an unpaved road, I started to question my phone’s accuracy. I opened her specific details about finding her place which read:

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So, I’m alone in the dark… driving down an unlit dirt road looking for a “light up Jesus sign and the gate with the white star”… perfect. I literally just had to laugh at myself. It didn’t take long to find exactly what she had described- a lit up Jesus sign with an arrow pointing to a very rustic gate with a white star. The pictures below were taken the next morning when I was heading out towards downtown, but just imagine finding this in the dark.

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After pushing open the gate with the white star I entered her property following my cell phone’s flashlight. Immediately I could see through the windows into a room on my right that looks exactly like the pictures online, thank God I was actually in the right place. I entered through her patio with prayer flags as instructed, opened the patio door and finally arrived at my room for the weekend.

Let me just say, I’m not completely crazy. I don’t regularly go around putting myself in these situations, and it may seem like the beginning to a murder story… where you’re constantly yelling at the screen “get out, what are you doing?!”. I did my homework, read all of her many reviews, and was fully confident this was a safe place. Just maybe a little unconventional? Honestly, there are  very few of my girlfriends who wouldn’t have turned right around at the Jesus sign and headed to the closest hotel. I love every bit of it though, and if were being honest, it makes for more interesting stories later 😉

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The next morning I woke up bright and early thanks to that 3 hour time difference with the East coast. Over the next few hours I walked around downtown, grabbed brunch with a delicious bloody mary,  of course, and walked all the way down the warf. The views there seriously took my breath away and I was perfectly happy wandering alone all day.

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It was wonderful to be back in this amazing place. I ended the afternoon with a refreshing glass of Sauvignon Blanc overlooking the marina… exactly how my first Santa Barbara experience began.

 

Laguna Lovin’ & Cali Goodbyes…. For Now

August 25, 2014– The last full day of my newly single lady trip out to the west coast and I wanted to make the most of it! I was spending the day with my aunt… okay technically she isn’t my aunt at all, but to keep it simple I’m going to go with that. Aunt, friend, whatever… she’s someone who’s known me since birth.

I had to also drop my rental car off that morning so she met me at the airport. I was so sad to give back my favorite travel companion for the past week. Our daily trips to In-N-Out, the drive up the coast through Long Beach to Santa Barbara, cruising along the California hills blasting music, and all the while pretending it was mine. It was the perfect ride for this trip, and I was sad to turn in the keys! I may or may not have done some research about purchasing one of these guys when I returned home, but that’s as far as that idea went… for now.

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After dropping off the car we headed to Laguna Beach for the day. Back in high school when the reality show Laguna Beach was on TV, I remember my mom commenting on who stupid all their annoying drama was (agreed), but she always liked watching the TV show intro. Apparently the beach clips reminded her of growing up and her regular trips with friends from Long Beach to Laguna. She would tell me how she recognized the location shots and how she loved going there all the time as a teenager. I was excited to visit this gorgeous place for the first time, but also to visit another city that is indirectly tied to my past.

We parked the car and decided to start the day by taking a long walk along the water, taking in the endless views along the way. I love the rocky coast of Laguna and all the surrounding foliage. It feels much more natural than other nearby beaches I’d been to over the past few days.

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SauvignonBlue-LagunaBeach-4After our oceanside stroll we stopped for some super fresh quac and cosmos, still with that beautiful beach view. Over the next hour we sipped cocktails and talked about life, relationships, and future goals. I love how the older you get the less age matters in personal relationships. There I was, sitting with someone who is the same age as my parents and whose son is also my age, relating to each other and sharing stories and feelings as friends more than anything else. There were lots of laughs, a few tears, but most of all we cherished that time spent together in such a beautiful place. Over the next few hours we moseyed around through the streets, stopped in art galleries and cute little crafty stores, and continued to enjoy the day.

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A few hours later we found ourselves at this beachfront restaurant right as the sun was setting. We decided to grab another drink and some dinner to watch the sun go down, making it the perfect ending to not only an incredible day, but I week I will never forget.

As I watched the sky and its reflection on the water change over time, I thought about the journey I went through that week and the time leading up to it. What began as kind an escape from the reality of a recent sudden break-up had turned into a little bit of self discovery, and got me so excited for all the new possibilities in front of me. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the negative/sad feelings when life throws you curve balls and doesn’t take the direction you planned. I’ve heard stories from some of my girlfriends about just crying for weeks, even months after a breakup, not being about to see the bright side or move on for a long time. I am very thankful to know things always get better… and a lot of the time turn out better than you could have ever planned yourself.  With the bad comes something awesome around the corner, and sometimes you have to create that awesome for yourself instead of waiting around for it.

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That Real SB View

Like I said at the end of my last post, my new Santa Barbara friend recommended a few key places around the city I needed to check out before heading back to Orange County. One of his main suggestions was going to the courthouse… seemed like an odd suggestion to me until I arrived.

The entire thing was absolutely beautiful! I’ve always been in love with the Spanish-style architecture- the white stucco exterior, terra-cotta tile roofs and rounded archways. The courthouse has all of that plus ridiculously amazing ceilings, hand painted-tiles, luscious foliage and so many intricate details all over the place.

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One of the things Tour Guide George mentioned I had to do was to go to the top of the tower. As much as I was already in love with the courthouse already, the view from the top of the tower gave me goose bumps. When I returned to SB a few short months later I made a point to go up the tower again of course and the view still was just as amazing. I could sit up there for hours if I had the time.

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Any lingering feelings of sadness about my recent breakup- the reason why I ended up on this trip in the first place- were definitely gone at that point. At least the negative thoughts were. I sat up on the tower looking over this gorgeous place for a while, reflecting on my life. I thought about how some things which at the time seem so devastating and we don’t know where to go or what to do from there, can turn into something totally amazing. Doors open you might have never even imagined if you had continued on that same path.

It’s almost indescribable how I felt… so invigorated by life and its endless possibilities for my new future, while at the same time having this strong sense of peace and belonging. Like this is where I’m meant to be right now and what I should be doing. I will always love Charleston SC, where my ex moved to and where at the time, I thought was going to be my next if not final home. But Charleston never made me feel the way Santa Barbara does. I would have stayed up in the tower longer with that view if I didn’t have to get on the road in a few hours, so I made my way down to finish exploring the rest of the courthouse.

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Falling in Love with Santa Barbara

The next morning after arriving in Santa Barbara I couldn’t wait to get out and explore the city for the whole day.  I packed up my overnight bag, said goodbye to my cute little SB studio in the hills and headed into town. It was still early that Saturday, probably around 8am, but people were already out and about downtown- riding bikes, taking walks and enjoying the cool morning breeze.

Downtown was way more gorgeous during the day than when I saw it the night before: the streets totally lined with trees, ivy-covered buildings and cool little allies filled with shops and restaurants around every corner.

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My first mission of the day was to find some amazing brunch. I wandered around and ended up at Jeannine’s off Figueroa St., right off of the main strip downtown. There was a line to get in which is always a great sign, the menu looked awesome and it’s a family owned place which I love. After just a short wait I placed my order at the counter: Huevos Rancheros and 2 mimosas (who doesn’t like a little vacation morning buzz?), and grabbed a table on the little outside patio.

Seriously… best. breakfast. ever. Maybe it was that 2nd mimosa at 8:30am that made me so excited about this meal I was enjoying but either way, I still think about that breakfast today. And less than 3 months later when I returned to Santa Barbara for a second taste, you better believe I also got a second taste of both of these. I’ve recreated it at home but it’s never quite the same without that homemade salsa of theirs.

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I became obsessed with everything about Santa Barbara that day.

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A few hours later I came across this outdoor Indian shop on lower State St. Something about the Indian culture really draws me in- all the tapestries, radial patterns, burning incense, vibrant colors, the intricate details and textures. I shopped around for a bit and found the perfect blue tapestry to bring home and a few other beautiful pieces. When I returned to SB again in November I came back to this same shop and picked up another larger tapestry: both are hanging in my bedroom today.

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My day in Santa Barbara felt like it couldn’t get any better! But boy was I wrong. Remember my new SB friend, Tour Guide Stephen, whom I’d the night before? One of his must-sees for me to check out was the Santa Barbara Courthouse. Seems a little strange doesn’t it… but it is by far my favorite place in the city. You will find out why in the next blog post!

 

 

Journey into the SB Life

After devouring my second In-N-Out burger in less 24 hours of my SoCal trip back in August, I left Long Beach and headed up the coast towards Santa Barbara. I decided to take the longer route up the 1 along the coast. While Malibu ended up throwing some not-so-fun traffic my way, I couldn’t ignore those gorgeous ocean views along the way.

It seemed like around every bend there was a view of another beautiful cove, the bright blue water shining under a perfectly clear sky. I made a few pit stops along the way to get my feet in the sand, take in the view, and stretch my legs for a bit.

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My goal was to get settled into Santa Barbara before sundown. It was actually per my mother’s suggestion I was heading up there in the first place.  According to her, SB was “totally my style and I would so love the vibe and feel of the city”. What can I say… she was 100% right.

I could already tell driving into the city that I would be in love. I checked into my cute little studio rental off airbnb just outside downtown, changed out of my bikini, and headed towards the marina. Boy was I craving some seafood and a glass of sauvignon blanc! The marina was breathtaking and I got there just in time to catch the sunset.  Between all of the boats, tall palm trees, rolling hills in the distance, the sparking ocean and the smell of seafood, I couldn’t stop smiling to myself. I grabbed a bar stool at Brophy Bros. facing this gorgeous view and ordered myself some oysters and a glass of wine to watch the sun go down.

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By the time the last oyster was enjoyed and the last sip of wine was drunk, the sun had gone down and I was ready to head into downtown for some more exploring before turning in for the night. Even at night downtown Santa Barbara was amazing! I wandered the streets, checking out all the different alleys off of State Street that were filled with shops and restaurants.  After a good bit of walking down the main stretch I was in the mood to keep this sauvignon blanc thing going and set out to find a cool little wine restaurant/bar. A block or so off the main road I found Intermezzo Bar & Cafe, a vibrant little place with a cute front patio, wine on tap and one more seat at the bar waiting just for me.

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I snatched the last seat up and ordered a glass of wine. The bar was filled with classy men and women, either on dates or out with friends, and all of whom were dressed quite nicely. I suddenly remembered how I was dressed that night– crazy patterned rave looking leggings, a Hangout Festival tank top, flip flops, and my hair all pulled up up in a high bun.

I looked like a 17 year old who has just gotten back from a music festival.

I laughed at myself for a minute, kind of loving the fact that I looked slightly ridiculous in this place. No wonder the bartender immediately ID’d me but didn’t bother with the couple sitting to my left. About half way through my glass of sauv blanc I found myself in a conversation with the man sitting to my right at the bar named George. George had been living in Santa Barbara for almost 15 years by then and knew so much about the city. I told him I was only in town for the next 24 hours and asked what things I HAD to see before heading back to Orange County. He was more than happy to give me a run  down on the must-sees and gave me his number in case I “had any questions about anything tomorrow”.

I now had my first SB friend- Tour Guide George.

 

Long Beach Memories

Friday morning. My first full day in beautiful SoCal and sitting poolside with a fresh cup of coffee was the perfect way to spend the early morning. A perk I love about visiting the West Coast from the east is the time difference… I wake up super early without even meaning to.  So yes, I was up happily drinking coffee at 7am where normally I would be hitting my alarm over and over again not wanting to get ready for work.

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After finishing the last sip of that hazelnut cup I packed an overnight bag, threw on a bikini top, one of my favorite beachy coverups and jumped in that beautiful car which from then on I would pretend was 100% mine. My first stop on my way up the coast was a little trip down memory lane… Long Beach, CA.

Both my parents were born and raised in Long Beach and it is a place I spent a lot of time in when my family was still living in California. It’s funny how places can catch your eye and bring back a feeling inside of you even when you haven’t been there in over 15 years. On my way to check out my grandmother’s old house, the house my mother grew up in, I was intensely drawn to this seemingly random park. Pulling into the parking lot I realized this was the place we used to go to ALL the time when I was very young. We would walk along the pond, feed the ducks and enjoy that beautiful SoCal sunshine.

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Visiting that park was such a pleasant surprise I was ready for some more familiar places around Long Beach! I drove by my grandmother’s old house (funny how much smaller it actually was than how I always remembered it) my mother’s old high school, and my final and most important stop… All Souls Cemetery on Cherry Avenue.

Both of my grandparents on my mother’s side are buried at All Souls. It was just as beautiful as I remembered and I can’t even describe how it felt to visit. Since my immediate family is living on the East Coast now but are all originally from the west, there is a lack of real connection to the east for me. Being in Long Beach and visiting All Souls gave me that deep feeling of a past,  a place I truly come from and that is a huge part of who I am today.

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By this time I was looking at about 2pm and it was time to get the hell on the road! My next journey was a little drive up the coast to Santa Barbara… and who wants to get stuck in that shitty LA Friday afternoon traffic on such a beautiful afternoon??

But first… gotta load up on that Double Double for the road 😉

 

 

O Hey There California

The time had finally come! I was at the Atlanta airport at 9am with an hour to kill before my flight out to the West Coast. It had been over 3 years since I had last been in my favorite state and I couldn’t have been more excited. Given the situation, I made the most logical and responsible decision possible; have a bloody mary… okay 2 bloody marys. I mean it was 9am people… a glass of sauvignon blanc would have just been crazy.

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4 hours later I was landing in beautiful Southern California! Something about seeing those rolling hills running into the ocean makes my heart happy. The next step in my “screw relationships, I’m a new woman” adventure was picking up my rental car. Now, I had deliberated over this quite a bit. At first I assumed, I’ll get the cheapest car… it’s only transportation and I’d rather spend my money on other things. But then the other voice creeps in that says “screw that, get the convertible and live it up!”. Well… the practical side of me won in this situation and I reserved the economy car. I settled the bill at the rental car counter and made my way over to pick up my car for the week.

After about 20 minutes of waiting and waiting for them to pull my little eco-friendly car around someone finally told me they were out of cars. How can a rental company be OUT of cars? The sales guy kept trying to put me in an SUV… which would  have been nice except I was totally solo and this frugal girl doesn’t want to pay for gas to tote an SUV around, even if I got the rental for the economy price. I asked him if he had ANY cars available and he told me to look around and take my pick. As fate would have it, 1 minute later whips around this gorgeous Dodge Challenger… shiny white exterior, black leather interior and a bumping stereo system. I snatched that beauty up immediately…. all for the  price of that little economy car.

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I will say… not too much else makes you forget about a break-up faster than speeding around in one of these bad boys, windows rolled down and your favorite music blasting as you cruise through the rolling California hills. To be honest, I hadn’t felt so alive and free in a LONG time, and I hadn’t even seen the ocean yet ;-). After driving around for a bit I made my way over to a VERY important destination… In-N-Out Burger. Between the new car and this delicious burger I hadn’t enjoyed in years, I was on cloud nine.

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Of course I sent this instagram photo to my dad. EVERY TIME he is on the west coast he sends me a picture and/or video of him enjoying an In-N-Out burger, and it was finally my turn for retaliation. I was very quickly reminded that I should have ordered the Double Double, which I would NEVER make that same mistake again. People… Double Double with grilled onions ALL day every day, trust me. I had it 3 more times during the remainder of my SoCal stay.

After inhaling that delicious burger I headed to my home away from home for the week, my godfather’s house. It felt so good walking through doors that were totally new but at the same time completely familiar and homey at the same time. I will forever be grateful to have such wonderful people in my life that open up their doors and make me feel so at home even though I am completely across the country from where I live.  I felt so satisfied inside, like why haven’t I been embracing this side of who I am and where I come from sooner? I unpacked my bags, threw on my swimsuit, and settled into what would be an unforgettable week.

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A New Beginning

Breakups suck ass.

Yes… I just said “suck ass” in the first line of my first official blog entry and it feels fantastic. But we all know that is a very true statement.

To be honest, it’s hard to believe it’s already been over 6 months since mine.  As much as I wanted to look back and try to figure out exactly where things went wrong, how I could have stopped it from happening, or what I could have done differently… the end result is the same for us all. It’s over… that’s life, and I had to deal with it.  For me, that moment created change in more ways than one. Not only was I flying solo once again but the entire direction I thought my life was going immediately vanished. At first it was completely shocking and overwhelming but it didn’t take me long to realize the beauty in this new life of mine- the possibilities were literally endless.

Screen Shot 2015-01-08 at 11.25.48 PM A few days later I booked a weeklong trip out to Southern California… somewhere I hadn’t been for years but that has always been so close to my heart. Sometimes you need to run away a little bit, leave behind your normal reality and expose yourself to everything you’ve been missing out on while staying in your comfort zone.  I mean really…  would you rather sit at home, looking like a hot mess crying over a lost relationship you can do nothing about… or cruise up the West Coast in a muscle car, windows down, singing along to the music while enjoying gorgeous ocean views with nothing to do but whatever you feel like doing at that moment?

The choice seemed pretty obvious to me.

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Thus began the journey that lead me to where I have found myself today. And by “found myself”, I don’t mean where I ended up by accident. I mean the moment that jumpstarted an awesome journey of new adventures, self-reflection, some hilarious stories, creative ideas, cherished travels and memories I will never forget.

It’s about time we start getting caught up on things right?! 😉

SB is born!

Plane tickets, live concerts, blue oceans, amazing views, new cities, creative endeavors, life lessons, celebrated successes and endless possibilities… all with a glass of wine along the way.

Just a little sneak peak of what’s coming soon to Sauvignon Blue.

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