Okay, let’s recap. 6 months ago I was very newly and unexpectedly single, had just booked a weeklong trip out to SoCal, and was starting to get settled into this next chapter in life.
Lucky for me, I was already used to being on my own a lot since my ex and I were doing long distance at the time. As difficult as it is to mentally/emotionally let go of someone, it sure made it a hell of a lot easier being in the circumstances I was in. I already had an apartment that was 100% mine, a social life I didn’t have to separate from, I didn’t have to worry about running into him anywhere around the city and the part that for some can be the most difficult- I was already used to going to bed most nights alone. A lot of things were in my favor for the post-breakup transition!
Not going to lie, I got a few compliments from friends on my ability to deal with a such a life altering event in a positive and calm way, but that doesn’t mean it was totally easy. I barely made it through the first day back at work… granted, it was the 2nd day of me dealing with this new realization. I left work, came home, put on the movie Bridesmaids, cried on my couch and took a nap. When I woke up an hour later I made a decision- no more time was going to be wasted being upset over something out of my control! So I got up off the couch, threw on some running shoes and let out all of that inner stress on a long run around the neighborhood.
Beforehand, so much of my time/energy had been spent on job hunting and wanting to move to the city my boyfriend at the time had relocated to. The city, if I may throw this out there, I introduced him to and wanted to move to myself before him… a fact that I will always be slightly resentful of. What can you do though… life isn’t meant to be fair. The Cali trip wasn’t coming for another 6 weeks so like any post-breakup lady should do, I filled up my time staying extra busy with work, going out with girlfriends and creating fun projects for myself.
Staying busy with work isn’t so bad either when you are a designer for a women’s travel/home accessories company! Instead of stressing myself over the idea of moving for months I was able to feel settled and enjoy playing with new products, color combinations and collaborating on collections for the upcoming Spring/Summer 2015 season. I also took this time to get more settled into my apartment! I went shopping for some home accessories and did some more decorating. I finally got around to a few DIY projects as well that I had been putting off- repainting some side tables and a dresser.